Your Greatest Fear Could Be Your Biggest Opportunity

Have you ever had dreams or goals so big they scared you? Good! Now that I have you thinking about your dreams and goals let’s dig a little deeper.  Ask yourself…

What are you so scared of? Is it that someone is going to think it’s a bad idea or think you’re crazy. Who cares what other people think, it’s your dream not theirs. This dream is planted in your heart and mind. You don’t need anyone else’s approval – just your own!

How long have you had this dream or goal? If it’s been years, what are you waiting for? The stars to align and someone to knock on your door with a million dollars to get you started?

What part of the dream scares you the most? Is it the financial part or the unknown? Could it be your lack of knowledge in the area? I bet you know of someone or somehow that you could overcome these challenges. Maybe talk to a financial planner to see how you can start saving to get to where you want to be. Maybe find out who is more knowledgeable in that area and learn from them.

What are you going to do today to move closer to your dream? Pick up the phone and make that call you’ve been putting off. Go visit that place you’ve had your eye on for a while now. Maybe it’s time to send that email and schedule that meeting. How about carve out sometime on the calendar to plan and focus on your dream this week?

All it takes is one small step to crush fear and open opportunity. 

The definition of fear isto be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or threatening. 
I bet your dream is not seen as dangerous, painful, or threatening – is it? No, of course not – your dream can help people. It can grow your community. It can help your family. It can make you a better person. 

Working towards your dreams and goals are hard and there will be some setbacks and times you fall short, and wonder if you are doing the right thing. With all those setbacks and hard days come wisdom and lessons so that your dreams can live out their fullest potential. 

As I type these words, fear is creeping in. I’m wondering if I have everything grammatically correct or if it’s going to make sense to the reader. I could let that fear overcome me so much that I never post this – believe me, I’ve let that happen more than you know. I will have some people proof read this for me though, Ha! I know there is someone out there that doesn’t care that I’m not a professional writer, they just needed to read these words to get them going towards their dream.

Move your fear out-of-the-way so you can get to your opportunity!

Are you bitter or better?

What if today you choose to look at your situation a little differently? I know it can be hard to see past the pain, suffering and diagnosis; but you have a choice even when it seems out of your control. You have a choice in how you are going to react to your pain, suffering, diagnosis, surgery, hurdles, battles, and heartache. You can choose to be bitter or better.

When I was first diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at age 19, I didn’t want to believe it. I couldn’t understand it. I was in the best shape of my life and ready to take on the world. I was angry that it stole away the goals that I was working so hard for at the time. I found myself getting bitter about my Crohn’s diagnosis and all the ugly stuff that came along with it. I didn’t like how that made me feel, it wasn’t me. I was allowing my diagnosis to redefine me. Well…from that point on I decided Crohn’s would never define me or my goals. I was going to allow Crohn’s to make me better not bitter. It did not happen overnight and I constantly work on my attitude and outlook on life to this day. When I have a negative thought about how Crohn’s is affecting me, I stop myself and think of something positive about the situation that I’m in. I have days when I’m frustrated because I’m exhausted for no absolute reason, or battling a blockage, going on my 3rd bag leak of the day, aching joints, missed plans, stomach pains, soiled clothes, or wondering if it’s time to go to the hospital. It’s in these frustrating moments when your thoughts are going to determine your opportunities for growth or destruction. You have an opportunity to help others even when you’re in the midst of your suffering.

Just think about this

What if the next time you go to the doctor and you’re in the waiting room you get rid of that bitter attitude and ask yourself this question… Who am I here for today? Your challenging health issues are not just about you, they are about other people too. Guess what? There might be someone in the waiting room that day that was recently diagnosed with Crohn’s disease, or scared that they are about to have surgery and you’ve already been down that road. You might be just the person they need to see that day, but if your bitter, you are going to miss out on the opportunity to meet a really awesome person.

What if the next time you go to the hospital. You ask yourself….Who am I here for? There might be a nurse that has been pooped on, thrown up on, cussed at, and spit on right before they came to your room. Could you be the only light they see that day, despite the pain you’re in? Maybe you could choose to be better that day, so that you can remind them of why they chose to be a nurse in the first place?

It’s easy to fall into a trap of constantly feeling like you have to explain to people that you are not well despite how “good you may look” on the outside, but your job isn’t to make people realize how sick you are and how bad you have it. Your job is to inspire, encourage, educate, and lift others up, because you choose to let your challenges make you a better person. Crohn’s or any challenge in life can be a gift, if you let it be. I cherish my gift and all that it has taught me over the years. So I leave you with these questions…Has your situation left you bitter or better? What are you going to do about it?